There’s an old saying that goes, “change is the only constant in life.” It’s a principle that applies to many aspects of our existence, including personal growth and professional success. Yet, despite knowing this, we often find ourselves gravitating towards comfort, seeking solace in the familiar and avoiding the unknown. However, being too comfortable can, in fact, prevent us from achieving our goals and reaching our full potential.
Comfort can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it provides a sense of stability and security, giving us the confidence to take risks and make decisions. On the other hand, it can be an obstacle to growth, as it discourages us from stepping out of our comfort zone and embracing change.
I fell into this trap when I secured a well-paying job on the railway almost nine years ago. Because I got comfortable, I stopped trying as hard to succeed. I always had money left over at the end of the month to save, and to me, this felt like I was progressing, albeit very slowly. Although I had some entrepreneurial spirit in me, I didn’t try very hard or for long to earn additional money. This was probably because deep down, I knew I had my job to fall back on. This is where comfort can hold you back.
It wasn’t until I was forced out of comfort that I began to succeed. My partner fell pregnant, and because I had to support her financially during the year off after she gave birth, I was forced to try harder to make things work. I couldn’t half-ass it and fall back on just my job earnings. Looking back at my performance now, I can safely say I didn’t put anywhere near the amount of effort I should have into trying to generate money on the side.
I am still guilty of seeking comfort to this day. Now that my “side hustle” earnings have surpassed my “normal” job income, I know that I should probably step away from my normal job and focus solely on my online income. I know the potential is there to earn limitless amounts of money. If I can get to where I am now by working it around a full-time job, imagine what I could do if I had 50 extra hours a week to dedicate to it? Deep down, I know this to be true, but I still seek stability. I have a mortgage to pay, a family to provide for, and this complicates things. It seems I would rather give myself a pretty big financial cushion before I make this leap. The reality is that I am probably missing out on a lot of money by sticking to stability and comfort, and sitting here writing this, it is even more clear that it is probably not the best strategy and one that I may regret.
Comfort doesn’t only hold you back financially; it could hold you back in other areas, such as relationships. You could be in a long-term relationship with your partner. Over the years, you may have drifted apart and now feel like you are more housemates living together than lovers. This is a common situation. Many people stay together out of routine and comfort. Although the situation isn’t great with your partner, the thought of starting over again and dating is scary, and there are too many unknowns. This makes people cling to the current situation. They may even justify the reasons for staying, “well, he is a good dad” or “he keeps a roof over our heads.”
This is exactly how I justify staying at my normal job on the railway. “But I do enjoy the job,” “I have a laugh with my workmates,” “I’ll stay for another year and then I’ll leave.” To achieve our goals, it is crucial to embrace change and be willing to face the unknown. By challenging ourselves, we open ourselves up to new opportunities, experiences, and personal growth.
Don’t fade away being comfortable; don’t wait for things to get unbearable before you make the change you wanted all along. I need to apply this advice to the position I am in now!
In conclusion, comfort can be both a source of security and an obstacle to success. To reach our full potential, we must learn to embrace change and push ourselves beyond our comfort zones. By doing so, we can unlock new opportunities and pave the way to personal and professional growth. So, let’s step out of our comfort zones and face the unknown, because that’s where true success awaits.
Great post Ben ๐ Totally agree with you.. When there is “enough” money, and there are no major financial pressures… it can 100% slow our progress.
One of my problems is I jump around from one biz model to another. I failed or quit each one of them. But I think being comfortable played a part in not taking it seriously enough to make it work!
I’m gonna stick to one thing this time and see what happens… I enjoy learning about kdp so hopefuly I can make it work.
And ps. You shouldn’t go too hard on yourself about your job… You don’t have to leave if it feels “off”… Just my two cents anyway ๐
Thanks Lorraine, it is a complex dilemma.
Itโs a shame that we wait until things are bad to make the required changes.
Good luck sticking with KDP and making it work ๐
So are you staying comfy cozy at the railroad or pushing forward out of your comfort zone???
I am guilty of staying on the railway due to comfort and stability and I know the best option is to leave. I think I will make the jump in the next few months. We will see ๐
This is true and a lot of people go through this. Although, I do think some people just donโt want to move forward to avoid extra responsibilities as well. Thanks for your insight to this. Hopefully you find the right timing and decision for yourself and your family! Good luck!
Thank Mel, sorry for the late reply, I must of missed this!
Yes indeed.
Law of attraction Ben – believe it, hold the vision, feel as if you already have it (and you do, so this should not be difficult), and achieve it.